What I Taught Myself to Do....is answer your relationship questions :)

... is apparently many things, especially if it has to do with love and relationships. i personally don't know how i managed to learn so much, but i guess reading, and experience all come into play. :)

i've actually been asked quite a few questions through email concerning this blog and DMs on twitter from guys and girls alike (shocking). so let's call this...

... "the love questions answered by that random asian kid, JustAnotherAsianGirl" ...

here we go...

1. My GF constantly goes around telling people and her friends that we aren't together, but totally sucks up to me when we are alone. i know this because one of my friends told me that my GF told him. what do I do now? -via Twitter DM

JAAG: well, my advice is that honestly, this girl isn't being honest to you. a relationship is based on trust and respect... so tell me, what type of respect is this when your GF goes around telling others that you aren't 'together' or how much she hates being with you? this is almost as bad as two-timing, and my advice is to confront this girl pronto, before she leaves you high and dry.

2. Sometimes i think that i'm not good enough for my boyfriend. i think this just because recently, whenever i would ask him if he wanted to hang, he would make up some excuse saying that he was 'busy'. i know now that this is not the case because one time he said he was 'busy', i saw him at the mall with a couple of his friends and an unknown female friend. what's the deal? -via email


JAAG: oh dear. sometimes, as much as girls love boys for their protection and support, sometimes they don't appreciate the fact that girls are more sensitive to their male counterparts; hence, we crave the attention and love. [of course this doesn't apply to every girl and boy].  i would say, talk to your guy. let him know how you feel. ask him if there is anything bothering him.. and as difficult as it is, don't jump to conclusions right away. find the common ground between you and him and your relationship should be smooth sailing. :)

3. How do i get a guy to notice me? -via BloggerMail


JAAG: the timeless question that every girl wants to know the answer to, including yours truly. in order for one to get into a successful relationship with a guy that truly cares for them for who they are, firstly, BE YOURSELF! don't reinvent yourself to make yourself seem more compatible for your cutie. Is your crush a meat chomping, football player who doesn't know the difference between geometry and geography, while you are a conservative, honour roll student who's a vegan? chances are, even if he does fall for your gorgeous looks, you'll have problems when you go out on dinner dates. my advice for you is to keep your options open and don't tie yourself down just yet... hang out with your girls, keep the cliques to a minimum, and sooner or later, the right guy will come to sweep you off your feet!

4. when should i tell a girl 'i love you'? - via Twitter DM


JAAG: wow, a sensitive guy, a rare find! :) well, congratulations to you on making your relationship work for you like this! now, because every girl is different (obviously i am different from your GF immensely), you have to work it in according to her. find a moment when it's (obviously) just the two of you, maybe while on a date or something. take her by the hand and look into her eyes to show sincerity, and tell her those words. two points though- make sure that it's a couple dates (or even a couple months) into your relationship, and don't rush things: as much as i can break down how and when and where you should do this, ultimately, if you feel that the time is right, then go for it. good luck!

5. There's this girl i really liked, but while i liked her she had a boyfriend, so i got a girlfriend, just to take my mind off of her. then she broke up with her boyfriend and while i was with my girlfriend, we kind of had a friction filled friendship. now that i'm broken up with my girlfriend, i feel like i'm falling in love with the girl i originally loved. what do i do now? -via BloggerMail


JAAG: it's almost like you're living my life! wow, surprisingly enough, i've been through a similar circumstance, so i know how you feel..somewhat. (i was the girl in your situation, just some FYI)
so, what do you do now? well, i guess firstly, you should make sure that you are completely over your old girlfriend and make sure that she is completely over her old boyfriend... that way, you can avoid any chance of 'rebounding', which sometimes is very demeaning to some. then, try to rebuild the friendship: you said there was a bit of friction? try to ease it up: write her a letter, send her a song, call her... do something meaningful that will tell her how you truly feel AS FRIENDS. when you feel that you have finally broken past all the old friction, gradually do things to show her how you truly feel as SOMETHING MORE. i can tell you first hand that girls really want to know that the guy is making an effort to prove a point, and that most of us appreciate the small little gestures.. if you get the message across loud and clear, then she'll know how you really feel about her.. and that's what girls love the most: no mixed signals! of course, you must follow through with it and stay consistent, so if you think that this is just a phase and it will eventually pass, don't even bother. but if you feel that it will last a little longer and maybe turn into LOVE <3, then go for it.... proceed with caution :)

6. is it bad to date my ex's best friend after i dumped him? -via Twitter DM


JAAG: unfortunately, yes it is. it's basically like you going out with your best friend's ex boy friend. there is a certain level of trust that you build up with your friend, and this breaks the trust that you have built with her. likewise, boys have their own trust that they build up between themselves, even though on the exterior, it may not seem like it.
what i can suggest is that try your best to keep your options open, and try not to tie yourself down. if you keep convincing yourself that your ex's best friend is "The One", chances are you will act on it. try your best to keep a look out, but keep him on your radar, but not all the time. when you feel that you and your ex have COMPLETELY (and i mean COMPLETELY) moved on from each other, make a subtle (SUBTLE) move; maybe a simple wave or smile when you see him in the halls, a simple conversation.. stuff like that. don't be too fierce, and you'll see how far it gets you.

7. how do i get my summer fling to be my boyfriend when school restarts? we go to the same school and are in the same grade and stuff, but i don't know if things will change just because school is starting... and i really like him too! -via Twitter DM


JAAG: well, is it 'just a summer fling' or 'something more'? ask yourself this question. chances are, if he feels the same way you feel about him , you'll start seeing him a lot more often than you once did. he'll make his way to see you, especially if he likes you. if he hasn't done anything on the first day, shoot him a text with maybe an inside joke from the summer or tag him in a Facebook picture of you and him from the summer, or write on his wall. do something small to initiate to the two of you our feelings.
however, if he doesn't reply to your texts or do anything about your picture or even say a simple 'hi' by the time a week/month/couple months have gone by, chances are this was just a summer fling. while you are disappointed that this relationship didn't last, hey, you saved yourself a lot of trouble: guys like this tend to be known as 'the player' and they get around pretty quickly. if you had gotten together with him, (of course this is speculation) there could be a chance of him cheating on you or just using you to get another girl. for now, focus on the task at hand: getting good grades, making the volleyball team, singing lead in the school's annual musical, fundraising for a future trip... and worry about guys when the worthwhile ones come along. :)


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WOW~! these are just some of the many questions i have received ever since the last post... i didn't even know that i was capable of being a so-called 'love guru'! thanks for making this happen, and i definitely will answer more questions, but you got to send them in!

well, there are approximately two more weeks until school starts for me today. not counting the day of, there are 13 more days until school starts. feelings are mixed: happy, anxious, disappointed, overjoyed...

well, you know my motto: STAY OUTTA TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! here's a feel good song for you to enjoy while you anxiously await the coming of school..

"I Want You" by Fefe Dobson ..

Good luck to everyone in the coming school year! peace out and live it up, life only gets better...


rachelrae xx

two down, three more to go...

... meaning work. my job. meh, it's fine and all. if you like chilling with little children all day who have no regards for manners and fight and bicker over the tiniest of tiny things. it's ghetto but fun at the same time.

hey, someone once said that work builds character. i believe that...

so, 21 more days until school starts! YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY YAY! >>>>>> .................

what's the deal, kids? are you winning?

'Time to Win' by Down With Webster... the boys who understood the 'duh, winning' motto long before  Charlie Sheen came around :)

i'm actually really excited for school , so don't burst my bubble or whatever.



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i learned something new the other day, that maybe i should have a long time ago.

i was hung up over a guy that i couldn't have, and it made me sad and depressed when i should have forgot him (hello, Cee Lo Green!) and moved on.

but i didn't.

so now what i understand is that if i forget, then i can move on, be more happy and live my life. get somewhere, some how, in my own pace and time. and i am proud to say that i found someone to love.

i did. and i thought that i wouldn't be able to because this person left such  a scar on my heart, after he used me and broke my heart. </3

but it's all good now. i think that in time to come, he'll be coming back to me trying to win back my forgiveness... but by that time it will be too late for him. i'll 'find someone someday who might actually treat me well' ...

(credits from this amazing song from this amazing singer, 'White Horse' by Taylor Swift)

well, whatever. if he doesn't want me and wants to spend his days with some random girl who doesn't love him the way i do, then too bad, his loss.

I bet you I'm winning, I bet that you're not.

gotta love Down With Webster - 'Whoa is Me' :) they always have something awesome to say ;)

well, gotta split. it's beginning to look a lot like parents running off to Wal-Mart to buy school supplies, and the summer sun has begun to fade, sadly enough. oh well... seasons of love, baby. gotta love school.. for the friends and awesome teachers i mean, erm....


stay good for the rest of the vacay, you only got so many days left to spend in the sun. and before you know it, you'll be back in the classroom for another ten months of pure educational enjoyment. LOVE IT WHILE IT LASTS!

STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! i'll keep the countdown posted every so often, hopefully as often as i can fit it into my schedule. a girl's gotta plan her grand entrance for the first day back, y'know, with SWAG.

21 more days. 21 more days. 21 more days...

..where did summer go, and how did it go by so fast???

love and etc..

rachelrae xx

my new song - Waterfall (That's Me)

written by yours truly and the lovely and amazing Aaron Chan :)

Waterfall (That's Me)

(Verse 1)

You once were someone I could see the future with

But I guess I was wrong

I guess I was wrong

You were the one I wanted to be with

But I guess you moved on

Thinkin' I could be strong

(Pre-chorus)

Well now I don't want you to come back for me

No I don't need you

Don't tell me...

(Chorus)

We had it all

Our life was perfect

Baby just take a step back

That's not the truth 'cause our love

Crashed down like a waterfall

You tell me it's not the end 

You want us to still be friends

The love is ending

So stop pretending

Like you don't see

The girl in front of you crying 

That's me

(Verse 2)

We once had something magical

But I guess I was blind

I guess I was blind

You told me that day you loved me

But I guess that's a lie

Stringin' me along for the ride

(Pre-Chorus)

Well now I don't want you to make things right

No I don't need you

Don't tell me...

(Chorus)

We had it all

Our life was perfect

Baby just take a step back

That's not the truth 'cause our love

Crashed down like a waterfall

You tell me it's not the end 

You want us to still be friends

The love is ending

So stop pretending

Like you don't see

The girl in front of you crying 

That's me

(Bridge)

Standing in the rain

Waiting for me to knock some sense into my brain

You tell me it's not good bye

You want me to try

To start all over again

(Well) You hope too much and are set too high

Telling me I'm throwing it all away

But did you know there once was a day

I wanted you to be mine

(Pre-chorus)

Well now I don't want you to come back for me

No I don't need you

Don't tell me...

(key change!)

(Chorus)

We had it all

Our life was perfect

Baby just take a step back

That's not the truth 'cause our love

Crashed down like a waterfall

You tell me it's not the end 

You want us to still be friends

The love is ending

So stop pretending

Like you don't see

The girl in front of you crying 

That's me

Crash down like a waterfall ~

*hehehe ha, so that's our song. hope to perform it someday.

** Written in F Major - key change to G Major after bridge.

well, you know the drill. STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! cheers everyone, there are only three weeks of summer vacation left! :D

rachelrae xx

I thought it was summer?

hello everyone.

so it's summer, right? well, i'm spending the summer writing notes for musical history. it reminds me of school, the only part that i don't particularly enjoy :)

but yeah, there are 27 more days left until school starts. i'm really excited! haha, probably the only online blogger that you'll see that is excited about school. i like seeing my friends and teachers and chilling at school with them, and not at home, bored out of my mind.... LOL

"Summer Girl" by Stereos <3 cute song!

how is everyone's summer going? my summer is going pretty swellular, actually. the weather is nice, music is going pretty good, and life is everything i really want it to be.

so i can't complain.

but, this is what i really am excited for:

LIFE WILL GO ON! SCHOOL IS HERE SOON!

stay out of trouble and don't forget to smile! cheers, ladies and gents! :D

rachelrae xx

I'll Be Thinking About You Worldwide.

soo... HAPPY HAPPY AUGUST!

and... just 34 more days until school starts! and no, i'm not counting or anything... ;)

so what's cracking, ladies and gents? it's finally august, and for me, it's beginning to feel a lot like summer, right when all the Staples ads come onto TV and start singing "It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year"

yeah. anyways.

so i guess i can't really complain about life. life in general is okay, its good, its awesome. somedays i wish that it could be better, but as long as i'm not starving or living on the streets, i can't complain. i shouldn't, anyhow.

Just got back from Whistler a couple days ago. Whistler, a place i haven't been to in ten years. i would have blogged about it there but i FORGOT! :( sorry about that.

its a beautiful place! there is actually snow too! ;)

so yes, i must leave now. i hope i left you all feeling refreshed that YOU. ARE. ALMOST. DONE. SUMMER!

:) ROCK ON! stay out of trouble and don't forget to smile!

rachelrae xx