I have no idea what went wrong, everyone! I had posted at least two posts after the most recent one that is currently present on my blog... must be something wrong with the school server >.<
Anyways, here are the long awaited answers to the questions that you asked a long time ago..some relationship based, some just plain interesting. Thanks for everyone's patience!
Q: There is this girl who is constantly flirting with me and getting physical with me. The crazy thing is, I don't like her at all! How can I get her off my back, figuratively and literally? - Creeped Out, via Tumblr
JAAG: I think you better have a one to one talk with her, but before you do, make sure you make your reason known for why you want to have this talk with her. She may be under the impression that you want to be her boyfriend. Some girls tend to do that.
So, the talk. Tll her that you really aren't interested in dating anyone now, and that you would like it a lot better if you just stayed friends (or acquaintances, pick your preference). Let her off easy, and try not to bring in the fact that you feel harrassed. However, if after you talk to her and she still harrasses you, you may want to seek help from the administration at your school to see what can be done. Best of luck on talking to her. I know it will be a difficult and hella awkward conversation, but I think you would probably want to have her keep the harrassment to a minimum... right? ;)
Q: There is a guy that I always flirt with at the bus stop and when we ride the bus together, and he treats me like a princess. But then when I see him in school he pretends like I don't exist and he never talks to me. What is the deal? - Invisible, via Tumblr
JAAG: Ahh, yes, the alter ego boy. For all we know, this boy may really like you and he is too shy to prove it to you, himself and the world that he does. Give him some time: when you see him in the hallways, give him a small smile to make yourself seem more approachable. Do you share any classes with him? Maybe bring up that nasty book report that you have to turn in next class for English, or maybe an inside joke from Bio. Whatever magic you seem to work on him at the bus stop, try it during lunch or something.
The alternate reason for his strange behaviour could be that he doesn't want to be associated with you in school, which would make him an absolute jerk. Whatever the reason is, ask him about it on the bus. Tell him, "hey, I don't get why we don't talk in school." Watch out for defenses like "We talk plenty" or "You just don't talk to me". If he brings those in, you may want to question whether or not this is a good friend to keep. If he apologizes and gives you what you feel is a valid reason... then maybe this could the beginning of a beautiful friendship.. and possibly more.
Q: There is this guy that I have been so close to for such a long time. His girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago, and now my friends think that I should date him. I kind of like him too, because I know that he deserves someone a lot better than his ex, and I also know that I can be that better girl for him. The thing is, I know that his ex is out to get me. - The Better Choice for Him, via Tumblr
JAAG: Strange as this may be, I have been the 'ex that is out to get ________" very recently. I'd like to say, in the ex's defense, that it would be kind of frustrating to see an ex treat someone else the way they have never been treated.
To answer your question, ask yourself these questions: Do you really like this guy? What are the qualities that you see in this guy that you value? Is there anything that you dislike about this guy? Are you willing to look past his imperfections? Are you ready for a steady relationship? Is he ready? You should know the answers to these questions before you make an serious decisions, just to avoid future problems and regrets. Whether or not his ex is out to get you is besides the point, but the real question should be, are you out to get his ex? If you are, why are you trying to make her jealous and hate you more? Of course if this is totally way off from your intention, then fine. But make sure that you truly know what you want to date this boy so that you don't break his heart or have anyone after you.
Q: My girlfriend broke up with me because I was too 'clingy'. What does that mean, and do you think I can get a second chance with her? - Clingy, via Twitter
JAAG: Your ex, like myself, must be an independent person. When a person is too clingy, it means that they are constantly in need of approval from the ones that they love and will constantly follow them around. There are a lot of people that are like that, so you don't need to feel like you are the only one. However, 'clingy' is sometimes the nicer way of saying that people are 'insecure' with themselves.
As for a second chance, I'm probably the wrong person to ask. You should probably ask your ex to see if she will give you one. Sometimes, though, it is better to take the lessons you have learned and turn it into something great so that next time, you know a little more.
Q: This isn't really a relationship question, but would you go lesbian for a really attractive girl? - Curious, via Tumblr
JAAG: First and foremost, let me put it out there that I am not a lesbian, nor do I intend on being one. I would also like to say that I am not against those who are gay and lesbian. I have a couple gay friends and a lesbian friend as well. Also, my ex is bi. So I am freely open to everyone.
To answer your question, I don't really know how to define an 'attractive' girl because I personally am attracted to guys, obviously. I could tell you "That girl is dressed very pretty today" or "She's cute" but I could never be attracted to one because that's just not me. So no, I don't think I'd become as lesbian for an attractive girl because I don't know the first thing about what makes one girl more attractive than another.
Q: Who are your celebrity crushes and why? - via Twitter
JAAG: How did you know that I had more than one?? ;) Well, I think my first and favourite crush would have to be Logan Henderson from Big Time Rush. I like the whole band and find all of them cute, but Logan is by far my favourite. He is really attractive and sensitive.
I also like Irish boy Niall Horan from One Direction! He is different looking from the other boys, and that's probably why I like him so much! Plus, the Irish accent is amazing!
Singer and piano player Josh Groban is yet another one of my celebrity crushes. He's just amazing - I'm always mesmerized by the way he plays, and his voice is like the voice of an angel. He's also funny and just cute. His curly hair just draws me in <3
Anyways, thanks again to everyone for their patience. STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE. There are only about three weeks left of school, let's live it up, and best of luck the Grad 2012! :)
rachelrae xx
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