So there have been people literally breathing down my back for me to answer their questions. seriously. to avoid any further spam (jokes) i would like to dedicate this post to answering as many questions as i can... well, i'll try.
1. how do i tell a girl to back off.. wrong words. um, how do i tell her that i'm not interested? -via Twitter
JAAG: ouch, this is a hard one. if it were up to me to do this, i would tell her the truth. not cut corners, no shortcuts. this is already unpleasant for the both of you, so there is really no point in dragging it out. however, just be upfront and honest with her. don't do this over email/facebook/text/one of her best friends... just tell her the truth.
2. is there any way to get a guy to think i'm hot? -via BloggerMail
JAAG: hmm. you should just be yourself. don't change your whole being just for one person, because there are plenty of people out there (your future honey included) that love you for WHO YOU ARE and not some cheap version of yourself. if love really meant that we were to change ourselves for others, then HELL WITH IT. i said it. likewise, changing your look to make yourself 'hot' doesn't necessarily help you get the right attention. just be yourself and smile!
3. my parents aren't okay with my boyfriend, but i really love him. what do i do? -via Twitter
JAAG: firstly, sneaking around the parents isn't really the best thing to do. ultimately they just want what's best for you. of course we tend to think the polar opposite from our parents, but try to find a centre ground: compromise is the key. talk to them and patiently explain to them why you think that they should change their mind about him. maybe you can convince your parents to let him come over to dinner one night. i know it sounds old fashioned, but give it some thought.. after all, don't parents love it when we take responsibility for our own things?
4. my boyfriend and i are graduating this year, and he is planning to stay here for post secondary while i want to go somewhere else. any thoughts on how to stay together? -via email
JAAG: this is a tough one, since i've never actually been in your shoes, nor can i tell you how to go about playing this out. what i can offer you is a thought that you should treasure what you have right now as opposed to what could happen in the future. if you do plan on pursuing school outside of your hometown, we're in the age of electronic communication. keep in touch! also, with long distance relationships (if you plan on doing so) comes the element of TRUST. trust is so big in every relationship. you will have to trust him to know that while you're away, you are still together, regardless of distance.
you should also talk to him about it, discuss what could potentially happen when this does. as the saying goes, 'let's cross the bridge when we get there.' good luck!
5. is it too much to say that i am madly in love with my girlfriend? my guy friends think it's kinda creepy. - via email
JAAG: different strokes for different folks as they say. if you truly are, then embrace it! i guess what they are really trying to say to you is that 'they get it' and they 'don't need to hear this mushy-gushy stuff again'. maybe some of your friends are jealous because you have such a strong relationship. my advice is to just chill out for a bit, and focus on them more than your girl. continue loving her... but you don't have to give your buddies the play by play every time she comes over to your house to hang out.
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ANYHOW, i hope that answers some questions. more to come.... eventually. you probably noticed i don't have a fixed schedule.
well, i have more homework to do but i took some time to answer these. soo... STAY OUTTA TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! september is almost over.. can you believe it? ridiculous. pretty soon the snow will be falling....
tons of love and luck for you and yours,
rachelrae xx
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