No question is too small, too strange or too weird. Check out the sidebar to see how you can send your questions in, and I will answer them here :) Other than that, I like to post music, preach and use this as a journal of sorts.
Wow, I woke up this morning to the sound of birds chirping and sun streaming through my window. What a beautiful day! :)
I have a couple Twitter questions from my lovely blog readers. Here we go, I promised I would answer them, didn't I?
Q: How do i get a guy that i don't like AT ALL to stop following me around? - Stalker Trouble, via Twitter
JAAG: You should talk to him, but don't make it too personal but also, don't do this in front of his friends either to hurt his ego. Pull him aside and tell him exactly how you feel about him and your friendship with him (if there is any friendship in existence). But no flirty moves! Just be yourself and make it simple. Good luck!
Q: There is this guy that showed interest in me, but after one date, he disappeared. What happened? - Disappearing Date, via Twitter
JAAG: There are two scenarios that I can think up after reading this: 1) He is a total player, and he was just stringing you along as another "score". This is unfortunate, but the truth is, some guys do that for the thrill and to show off to their guy friends. The other scenario might be just as valid, 2) He really is interested in you, but now he feels like he is too vulnerable and too far in. He wants to take things slow, and is scared about how you feel. What I can suggest is to Facebook the guy or call him, and see what he says. If there is no response, then you know what to expect, which isn't much. If he seems a little interested, then keep talking about things that got you both interested in each other in the first place.
Q: Do you believe in fate and soulmates? - Starry Eyed, via Twitter
JAAG: hahaha, this is a cute one. Honestly, what I do believe in is that there is a right person for everyone, because we all have a plan for us from God. I've been hurt enough to learn that there really aren't such things as fairy tales and Prince Charmings. The only way I will believe in stuff like that is when there really is one that asks me to a first date and ends up marrying me... so I guess, in a twisted way I do, but I wouldn't call it soulmates and fate, I would call it God's plan. :)
Anyways, Thanks for all the Twitter questions! Keep them coming, guys! Don't forget, you can get your questions me through email or through my personal Twitter, @raerachelrae, or the blog twitter, @JAAG143.
Enjoy the rest of the spring break weekend, its all we got until we're back in school! :)
STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! I'd like to dedicate this song to all the spring break-ers out there: enjoy the sunshine, we finally have some!
This makes me think of summery days, even though its still spring. Big Time Rush - "City is Ours"
Oh the joys of staying at home during spring break. Makes you wish you were back at school.. for me, anyways :)
Ever since I answered the last question, I am happy to say that I was bombarded with even more questions! I guess now would be an appropriate time to go back and answer them.. and I also adore the little names you give yourselves.. it makes me feel like a real advice columnist :) Here we go :
Q: So I met this girl at a party and we had a ton of fun, and she called the the day after to talk to me and ask if I wanted to hang out some time. When I met her at the place that she wanted us to meet at, she was not only late but she was with another guy. What gives? - One Night Stand? via email
JAAG: I guess now we know why our parents are so overprotective of us and talking to strangers...
But all joking aside, now you know not to pursue her, because it's just a waste of your time. These are what we like to note as "party hookups" which 95% of the time are just based on sheer highs of fiction and the so called love you thought you shared during that night. Sorry to burst your bubble, but even if you felt like she was the one, she only viewed you as a one night stand.
On the brighter side of things, now you know what you are looking for in a relationship, and what type of girls are worth your time. Obviously this one wasn't, so go find one that will love you back completely.
Q: There is a boy that works at Starbucks that I think is really cute, but I have absolutely no guts to go up and talk to him! Just giving him my order is traumatizing enough! I have a hunch that he is flirting with me too.. but I will never know for sure. What should I do? - Falling for Starbucks, via email
JAAG: I must admit, I laughed a little when I read this because it's so cute! I wish all Starbucks workers were cute, then us girls would all be happy :)
I think you should make an effort to conquer your fear of talking to this boy without stumbling. If what you suspect is true and he is flirting with you, be fearless! Comment on something small first, like the weather or maybe the Starbucks special for the week. Ask his opinion on what reccommends... and suddenly, you find yourself having a smooth conversation with the boy of your dreams.
Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for only 2 months, but suddenly I feel like things are really boring. What can I do to make things better? - 2 months 2 soon, via Twitter
JAAG: Ask yourself this: Why does it feel like to you that things are "Boring"? If you can answer that, then ask yourself this: Do you really want to continue this relationship, or is this something that you feel that it should end? Would you work hard enough to make things work out for the two of you?
If you want to make things work, then try and do something special for not just you but for her as well: do something spontaneous. Instead of the standard movie and dinner date, set up a picnic in the park or moonlit walk on the beach. Do something daring and different that tells her, "Hey, you're special and I want to share these memories with you."
On the other hand, if you feel like this is too much for you and it's time to pull the plug, then I say sooner than later. Don't lead her on, but don't full out ignore her either to prove a point. Make it a point to talk to her privately to explain how you feel. Tell her that things aren't working out but try not to put the blame on her for this uneventful relationship. Either way, hopefully this works out for you and her!
Q: I broke up with this guy last year, and things have been pretty rocky between us. Now we are back on speaking terms, but I heard from a couple people that he likes me still and wants to get back together with me. The only thing I want from him is to stay friends now that normal has returned. I'm not interested in him anymore like that. What should I do to tell him how I feel? - Not Interested, via email
JAAG: Again I say, better sooner than later. He needs to know how you feel, and he needs to hear it from you and not your friend or his friend or through the rumour mill. Tell him the truth, but keep it concise and to the point. "I want to focus on being friends with you now" is better than "I'm not interested in dating you right now because I want to focus on other things." Obviously no one has the right to force you into liking this guy, but you want to make it known to him that the only thing holding you back from starting a relationship with him is not external influence, but something within you.
Q: I broke up with my girlfriend because I found that she was too clingy. Lately I have found that I'm missing her more. What gives? - Bipolar Dater, via Twitter
JAAG: In my eyes, I see two different types of break ups: the "It's not you, it's me" break up and the "You cheated on me, you selfish idiot" break up. Your break up is probably the first one, which is common.
Usually when a person breaks up with another for the first reason (it's not you, it's me), they will find that now that they are single, the person that they broke up with seems more attractive, and all of a sudden you miss the idea of being in a relationship in general. So maybe it's not really the fact that you miss her, its the idea of you being in a relationship that you miss. This is understandable, but it doesn't to happen to everyone. For example, one time I broke up with someone and I missed the idea of being in a relationship, and I missed the guy. Another time I broke up with someone and after the break up, I felt more liberated than ever before. Different people leave different impressions on their once significant others.
The other break up leads one to feel totally liberated that they aren't with the selfish person holding them down from living their life the way they want to. In that circumstance, no one is really missed. Well, maybe the one that cheated will realize how wrong they were in the end...
In conclusion, you broke up with her for a reason. That's totally understandable. Now your task is this: 1) don't get a rebound, because its not fair to that person; and 2) don't be inconsistent. Sure, you could still be friends with this girl, but if you find that you are flirting with her and sending her texts like you did in the past to lead her on, STOP. It's not fair to her. This isn't to say that maybe somewhere down the road you will both be given a second chance.. but I think you should both cool down from this relationship before either of you go find another potential soulmate.. or get back together with each other.
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oh, and one other question that I found totally random and totally unrelated to questions that I usually see in m inbox...
Q: JAAG, are you bi? - Just Curious, via Twitter
JAAG: *tries to stop laughing*
Ahem.
Well, no. I have friends that are both guys and girls. I am romantically attracted to guys, and I never really have been romantically attracted to girls. Of course, girls seem to act more bi than guys. I love hugs and yes, I tend to use the word "love" a lot.. but yeah. I have nothing against people with that orientation, but I don't personally feel that way for girls.
My question is, why the curiousity? :P
Anyways, there are some questions for you to pore over. Enjoy the spring break while it lasts, its creeping up on us and its going to come to a close real soon unfortunately..
STAY OUTA TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! Here is some music for you to listen to...
I have a new found love for the British boy band One Direction. Enjoy, all you Directioners out there :)
so, people. spring break is over. i'm kind of sad, but to quote Nelly Furtado, "Why do all good things come to an end?"
well because they do, okay? GET ON WITH IT.
my spring break was really fun! palm springs, california, is a beautiful place that is sunny and you see palm trees everywhere. it's sometimes pretty windy, but you get used to it. and get this: it gets up to 30 degrees Celsius. and this is barely spring time!
so yeah, people, how is life? i feel very relaxed after my fun week and a bit in the sun. and the shopping? don't even get me started!....
i like that people like to ask questions. i ask a lot of questions myself. so that's why i created my own formspring.me account so that my email doesn't get too over-spammed with messages. but yes, keep them questions coming! :)
today i won't post a music clip, but i will leave you with this...
isn't that cute? and don't think that it's overrated just because valentine's day is over... think of all the joy you can bring when you love someone! <3 :) just saying...
STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE. don't despair, children: the next long weekend is probably Easter weekend! Cheers! :)
spring vacay is taking place in California, the US of A!
PALM DESERT! i've never been there in my life, but still, it sounds like a heck of a lot of fun! it'll actually be sunny!...
"Til I Forget About You" by BTR, another good song!... can't wait can't wait!
so where exactly is palm desert you say?
okay, so i don't know where it is. but apparently it's a BIG DEAL. like, for people who enjoy golfing, it's a BIG DEAL.
so what's the haps, peoples? and yes, to answer the many questions i got in my inbox last night, i did create my formspring.me account, so if you want to ask me any questions, you can contact me there. i'll post all responses on the account and from there it will be posted on Twitter and i think on my blog (aka RIGHT HERE) as well.
http://formspring.me/raerachelrae is where it's at. shoot. ask me anything...
LOL my dear Logan Henderson <3 so cute, so Ninja-wannabe :)
don't worry, i won't freak out like you see here. by the way, i think that Ninjas are cool and i would like to be one :)
so yeah, i'm gonna be away for all of the vacation at Palm Desert, i hope i don't dry up :P this probs means i won't be blogging for quite some time, but by April i PROMISE that i will have another blogpost up. if not, check out my WordPress account (i believe it is rachelrae14.wordpress.com or something) and of course, Twitter, for all the latest random tweets.
and keep the questions coming via formspring.me and email! i mean, who doesn't like to have their email spammed with tons of random email?
happy spring break, everyone! it's the best time of our lives, so live it up so that it doesn't pass you by!
using a Big Time Rush cliche...the city is ours. make full use of spring break! STAY SAFE! and you know it...
STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! love you all, and see you on the other side of the break!
well, spring break has officially begun! i wish everyone a happy, safe, fun, and relaxing spring break. i mean, what better way to relax from ther stresses of SCHOOL?
something to get your mood pumpin' for the break :)
GETTING YOUR SPRING BREAK ON!
so yeah, this post is dedicated to spring break and the dear boys at Big Time Rush. i like their music so much, it's crazy!
this is "Stuck" by Big Time Rush, one of my fave songs by them...you should explore BTR as well <3
so yeah back to spring break, the meaning of this post. anyone going out of town? it should be a blast ;)
i know that i am going somewhere but the 'rents refuse to say where, and it's driving me INSANE!
spring break = fun in the sun, hopefully not the rain. we've had about ENOUGH OUT HERE.
i've been getting a flood of emails from a bunch of you, so thanks for all your questions!
one very special person sent me a special question via email...and wanted me to address it now, so here it goes:
Travis Yu asks : "What does love mean to you?"
so here's my answer....
I think that love is something special. But this question is really vague, TRAAAV, because there are so many different kinds of love.
there's family love - i love my family. you can't choose who you live with, but you can choose to love them, which is the only right thing to do anyways since you see them 24/7. not that that's a bad thing...
and then there's friend love - among me and my BFFLs we all love each other for who we are. that's why we are friends. and with guys, you gotta love boys for not bringing all the gal drama there is.
finally, there is love love - when i find the right person, i'll know. love for me is very strong: love is commitment. love is respect. if i can't have any of those things, then love means NOTHING.
so Q and A is done...for now :) travis, i hope that answers your question... ;)
i guess this is good bye for now. my vacay starts in a couple days, so it's to the homework pile so that i can actually relax as oppose to freak out over homework. big time rush forever!
if you don't live your life big time, then no one will, and it will pass you by.
HAVE AN AWESOME SPRING BREAK EVERYONE! KEEP THE CONSOLES AND VIDEO GAMES AT HOME; COME OUTSIDE AND BREATHE THE FRESH AIR!
and as always... STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE!
and don't listen to Friday by Rebecca Black. i find that song annoying, but if you really want a massive migrane... :P
anyhoo, it doesn't look a thing like spring outside! we just survived a major massive rainstorm that morphed into a hailstorm....
freeeaky stuff. so i really can't believe that we just past halfway of February and it's still raining and hailing and
....
this is just too depressing! i mean seriously mother nature, BIRNG ON THE SUNSHINE!
i haven't seen the sun in a while. it's so cold and windy! :D
oh well. at least we have to computer to keep us company...
spring = spring break = fun in the sun with family friends and (hopefully) cute boys <3
i hope everyone had a marvelous Valentine's day! save some love all year round, and Spring is just around the corner! KEEP THE LOVELY LOVE FLOWING EVERYWHERE YOU GO!
this is so random, and this is also one of the reasons why i'm not on Tumblr. i actually made up a domain name but then it got confusing, so i gave up.
it's so much simpler here on blogspot.com, and even more simpler on my site http://pianooverdose.yolasite.com :) go check it out sometime.
and don't even get me started on twitter...it's so simple ... life is good.
when you have nothing better to do follow me on twitter ;) so raandom.
STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! my piano is finally going to get fixed today!
