Simple, Easy, Straightforward

Firstly, I just would like to share this amazing British boyband that I have stumbled upon while listening to music on Youtube.... the amazing things you can find :') They were originally called The Grove but they have now changed their band name to Lawson. This is their new single, "Standing in the Dark" from their new album Chapman Squares. I was blown away by how good they sound together and the fact that they are all very cute <3

SO GOOD.

Anyhow, this week has been pretty easy and simple, which makes me happy. It gives me time to think and catch up with things that I may be behind on. You may have noticed that I began blogging regularly on the Saturday morning... hopefully that will continue. I can't promise that it will but I will try my best to do so and get to your questions ASAP :)

Here we go: I found some of these interesting. Where do you find the capacity to think up some of these questions? I guess we are all very curious beings... ;)

The first thing I would like to address is this Facebook status-y thing that has a bunch (I believe there are 50 of them) questions that was sent to be via email... some really, really random questions.....

Q: Please answer this as fully and extensively as possible. I feel like I don't really know you that well as a blogger. I know its a lot more questions from one person that you usually get, but this would mean a lot to me. My friend posted this on facebook and I would like to see how you do with this. - via Email.

JAAG: Um. Well, then, I will try my best. (my answers are in blue)
 Ever cheated on someone? How many times?:
I've never cheated on anyone because I've been cheated on myself. The feeling when you find out that you've been cheated on is the worst in the world, and I don't want anyone to feel that way.
 How old were you when you lost your virginity? Or if you are a virgin, what age do you think you’ll lose it at?:
 I'll lose it when I'm ready = after I'm married = currently do not know what age I will get married at.
Are you “in love” with somebody?
Currently, no,
 Have you ever done anything sexual on your parents bed?:
That would be disgusting, gross and down right strange. NO.
Ever been “the other person” in an affair?:
No. 
How many people do you have a crush on right now?:
At the present moment that I answer this, there is  no one. Honestly..
Ever had a one night stand?
no.
Ever gotten drunk and couldn’t remember the night?:
I don't even drink. I don't really like the taste onf any alcohol.
 Ever had a crush on your neighbor?:
Well, all the obys in my neighbourhood are really young, like, 4 years younger than me... and they are gross and immature.
 Ever snuck out of the house?:
Funny question, but no.
 If you’re underage, do you still drink and/or smoke cigarettes?:
I am underage, so no and no.
 Ever attempted suicide?:
Thought about, yes; tried, no.
 Ever been to therapy? What for?:
When I had Mollaret's, I had to go to therapy and rehabilitation because of the medicine.
 Have you ever been so upset that you stopped eating?:
For me it's the opposite: if I get upset I do eat. Not a lot, but I would still eat.
 Are you clinically depressed? Are you taking anything for it?
I suffer from situational depression. I'm not quite sure if it's clinical yet; there has been no set diagnosis.
 How old were you when you first got kissed?:
If we're talking pecks on the cheek, I would have to say 12. Sweet, innocent, pecks on the lips, 13. Total makeout, 16. It was last week.
 Ever been in a relationship and wanted to end it, but stuck with it for some reason?
If I was in a relationship that I was unhappy in, it didn't seem fair to stay in the relationship for the sake of being in a relationship and leading the other person on, especially when they still love you. I've been in situations like that twice, but  Inever stuck around just because. That would be unfair.
Did you ever run away? How long were you gone for and what happened?:
The childhood naiveness of running away and hoping that people will be sorry that they ever got angry at you or made fun of you in the first place... thought about it, never went through with it.
 Do you ever lie to yourself about things so much that you believe it?
As much as I can lie to people about being fine when they ask me 'how are you?', I know myself too well. I can't lie to myself because I'm too realistic with my goals and what I want for my life.
 Have you ever liked someone when you were dating someone else?
No, because to me, that's the step into the cheating territory, and cheating is bad.
. Ever dated a friend’s ex?:
No, because that is just wrong. I wouldn't want a best friend doing that to me, so likewise,  I shouldn't do that to them
 Ever done something with your friend’s significant other?:
No. that's wrong.
Did anyone ever confide in you about being gay/lesbian?:
Two people so far. My first ex told me while we were together that he was bisexual. I had a friend once that told me that she was a lesbian. I don't have anything against homosexual people, but it was strange to hear that she was in love with me.
Do you know of someone who has done a horrible crime but never got caught?
No
.Ever stole a large sum of money?:
No, my future is too important for me to have it tainted with a police record over money that isn't mine.
Ever got a piercing behind your parents’ back?:
I am scared of needles. I would want them to be with me when I get my first piercing.
 What’s your #1 biggest fear?:
SPIDERS
Have you ever faced that fear? What happened?:
I confront them on a day to day basis. I scream really loudly.

Q: Would you consider yourself and introvert or an extrovert? - via Twitter

JAAG: Good question. I think about that a lot. Sometimes I think of myself as an introvert, but other times I think of myself as an extrovert. I'm kind of an in between of some sorts; an introverted extrovert if that even makes any sense. Some days I can fair well in social situations, but some days I just really do not want to be talked to because it is awkward to me.

Q: Describe the best summer romance you ever had :) - via Tumblr

JAAG: Honestly, there have been a lot of flings that have happened that either the guy ended or I've ended, but each one was unforgettable. Now that I'm older, I have a little more freedom. This past summer I went on a cruise to the Bahamas and I met this guy.. he's my age and he's from the east coast. He is adorable <3 We spent a lot of time together and he took me dancing and we even pulled a Titanic on the front of the boat. Nevertheless, when the time came to say goodbye, we just held onto to each other and traded info. He did kiss me, and he looks amazing in a suit and tie <3

Q: You come across as a really literate person. What are you currently reading right now? - via Twitter

JAAG: Well gee, thanks for saying that I am smart and literate. I've been reading since age 3.
I currently am reading Leo Tolstoy's Anna Karenina. It is quite the love story. There are parts about Russian farming that I find dry so I skip those parts, but the actual love story complete with the affiars and the bitter betrayals keeps me up all night in anticipation, flipping through he book page by page. If you ever get the chance, I suggest reading it, and I'm not even done yet!

Q: Would you consider yourself a tea person or a coffee person? - via Tumblr

JAAG: I cannot call myself a coffee person because personally, the taste of regualr coffee (ie Americano, Colombian, etc) with cream and sugar is unappealing to me. I do however like lattes or mochas. I would call myself more of a tea person. I love tea, it keeps me awake and doesn't put me to sleep (coffee does, strangely enough.)

Q: What is the best part of your day? - via Twitter

JAAG: Being able to wake up alive. It's the best feeling in the world :)

So I thank you for all your questions... can you believe that September is basically over?? Where has the time gone, I feel so old... :')

Meanwhile, STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! Enjoy the last couple days of September, the sunshine, the Autumn breeze and the coloured leaves falling from the trees... I should be a poet. :P

love and such,

rachelrae xx

Don't know what went wrong, but I'll try again.

I have no idea what went wrong, everyone! I had posted at least two posts after the most recent one that is currently present on my blog... must be something wrong with the school server >.<

Anyways, here are the long awaited answers to the questions that you asked a long time ago..some relationship based, some just plain interesting. Thanks for everyone's patience!

Q: There is this girl who is constantly flirting with me and getting physical with me. The crazy thing is, I don't like her at all! How can I get her off my back, figuratively and literally? - Creeped Out, via Tumblr

JAAG: I think you better have a one to one talk with her, but before you do, make sure you make your reason known for why you want to have this talk with her. She may be under the impression that you want to be her boyfriend. Some girls tend to do that.
So, the talk. Tll her that you really aren't interested in dating anyone now, and that you would like it a lot better if you just stayed friends (or acquaintances, pick your preference). Let her off easy, and try not to bring in the fact that you feel harrassed. However, if after you talk to her and she still harrasses you, you may want to seek help from the administration at your school to see what can be done. Best of luck on talking to her. I know it will be a difficult and hella awkward conversation, but I think you would probably want to have her keep the harrassment to a minimum... right? ;)

Q: There is a guy that I always flirt with at the bus stop and when we ride the bus together, and he treats me like a princess. But then when  I see him in school he pretends like I don't exist and he never talks to me. What is the deal? - Invisible, via Tumblr

JAAG: Ahh, yes, the alter ego boy. For all we know, this boy may really like you and he is too shy to prove it to you, himself and the world that he does. Give him some time: when you see him in the hallways, give him a small smile to make yourself seem more approachable. Do you share any classes with him? Maybe bring up that nasty book report that you have to turn in next class for English, or maybe an inside joke from Bio. Whatever magic you seem to work on him at the bus stop, try it during lunch or something.
The alternate reason for his strange behaviour could be that he doesn't want to be associated with you in school, which would make him an absolute jerk. Whatever the reason is, ask him about it on the bus. Tell him, "hey, I don't get why we don't talk in school." Watch out for defenses like "We talk plenty" or "You just don't talk to me". If he brings those in, you may want to question whether or not this is a good friend to keep. If he apologizes and gives you what you feel is a valid reason... then maybe this could the beginning of a beautiful friendship.. and possibly more.

Q: There is this guy that I have been so close to for such a long time. His girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago, and now my friends think that I should date him. I kind of like him too, because I know that he deserves someone a lot better than his ex, and I also know that I can be that better girl for him. The thing is, I know that his ex is out to get me. - The Better Choice for Him, via Tumblr

JAAG: Strange as this may be, I have been the 'ex that is out to get ________" very recently. I'd like to say, in the ex's defense, that it would be kind of frustrating to see an ex treat someone else the way they have never been treated.
To answer your question, ask yourself these questions: Do you really like this guy? What are the qualities that you see in this guy that you value? Is there anything that you dislike about this guy? Are you willing to look past his imperfections? Are you ready for a steady relationship? Is he ready? You should know the answers to these questions before you make an serious decisions, just to avoid future problems and regrets. Whether or not his ex is out to get you is besides the point, but the real question should be, are you out to get his ex? If you are, why are you trying to make her jealous and hate you more? Of course if this is totally way off from your intention, then fine. But make sure that you truly know what you want to date this boy so that you don't break his heart or have anyone after you.

Q: My girlfriend broke up with me because I was too 'clingy'. What does that mean, and do you think  I can get a second chance with her? - Clingy, via Twitter

JAAG: Your ex, like myself, must be an independent person. When a person is too clingy, it means that they are constantly in need of approval from the ones that they love and will constantly follow them around. There are a lot of people that are like that, so you don't need to feel like you are the only one. However, 'clingy' is sometimes the nicer way of saying that people are 'insecure' with themselves.
As for a second chance, I'm probably the wrong person to ask. You should probably ask your ex to see if she will give you one. Sometimes, though, it is better to take the lessons you have learned and turn it into something great so that next time, you know a little more.

Q: This isn't really a relationship question, but would you go lesbian for a really attractive girl? - Curious, via Tumblr

JAAG: First and foremost, let me put it out there that I am not a lesbian, nor do I intend on being one. I would also like to say that I am not against those who are gay and lesbian. I have a couple gay friends and a lesbian friend as well. Also, my ex is bi. So I am freely open to everyone.
To answer your question, I don't really know how to define an 'attractive' girl because I personally am attracted to guys, obviously. I could tell you "That girl is dressed very pretty today" or "She's cute" but I could never be attracted to one because that's just not me. So no, I don't think I'd become as lesbian for an attractive girl because I don't know the first thing about what makes one girl more attractive than another.

Q: Who are your celebrity crushes and why? - via Twitter

JAAG: How did you know that I had more than one?? ;) Well, I think my first and favourite crush would have to be Logan Henderson from Big Time Rush. I like the whole band and find all of them cute, but Logan is by far my favourite. He is really attractive and sensitive.
I also like Irish boy Niall Horan from One Direction! He is different looking from the other boys, and that's probably why I like him so much! Plus, the Irish accent is amazing!
Singer and piano player Josh Groban is yet another one of my celebrity crushes. He's just amazing - I'm always mesmerized by the way he plays, and his voice is like the voice of an angel. He's also funny and just cute. His curly hair just draws me in <3


Anyways, thanks again to everyone for their patience. STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE. There are only about three weeks left of school, let's live it up, and best of luck the Grad 2012! :)

rachelrae xx