three non-relationship related questions ! :D

hello fellow readers!

well, the Christmas season is drawing near, and we are only a couple days away from the big day!

When I opened my inbox the other day, I was surprised to find three questions that weren't related to relationships, surprisingly enough! LOL you guys are so cute :) Let's tackle them, shall we?

Q: My parents just got a divorce, and they are forcing me and my sister to choose sides. What should I do? I love them both equally, but I can't live like this! - via Email

JAAG: This is a sad situation, I must say, but not to worry. I think it will be beneficial for you and your sister to sit BOTH of your parents down and tell them that you love them both equally. Maybe make a compromise: you and your sister will stay over with each parent once every other week, (mom the first week of the month, the following week at dad's, and so on and so forth). See how this works out first, and hopefully this will make everything easier and less stressful.

Q: I want to apply for a job, but my parents both think that I am not responsible enough. I'm 16! What more do they need? - via Email

JAAG: Oh, the constant struggle of showing our parents how responsible we are. What you can start by doing is taking on extra chores (yes, extra chores), doing what you are told, and helping out your parents doing whatever they need help with. Maybe this will open their eyes to show them that 'Yes, I'm ready to take on more!' Also, keep on top of homework and maybe try to go for more leadership roles in school. That way, not only your parents but other people will see that you are ready for bigger things too!

Q: Recently I've been feeling really sad all the time. Is this normal? - via Twitter

JAAG: No, it's completely normal. Everyone has down days sometimes, some people more than others. Heck, even the girl giving you all advice has down days. I must admit though, I can relate to you. I think that you can combat this by surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself as opposed to people that bring you down. Distract yourself by doing things you love, and remember, never hold back your emotions. Talking to someone you trust will make you feel better, I promise you. Best of luck to you with this!

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And of course, I couldn't resist answering at least one more relationship question for you all!..

Q:  Hi JAAG! I have a big problem: I dated this guy for about 6 months and then he broke up with me. Then, a month after, I jumped into a new relationship with this other guy that I didn't know very well. I had no idea that my new boyfriend is total enemies with my ex! Now my ex is jealous and is trying to win me back. This is a huge love triangle that I want out of STAT. What should I do? - via Email

JAAG: Ahh, the Love Triangle.. this is a tricky one. Well, you can learn a couple things from this scenario called your life:
- your ex? he's a jerk. Thank goodness you broke up with him in the first place. If he is super jealous of you after he broke up with you? IMMATURE. you're too good for him.
- This just goes to show that it helps to get to know someone first before you begin to date someone.
- If your boyfriend now doesn't bash your ex, then we know that he is mature. If he does bash your ex, then we know that he is also mature.
So, I think that to salvage this situation, ignore your ex. Continue to have the relationship you wanted with your new boyfriend. If, however, your new boyfriend is trying to make this an all out competition with your ex, then honey, I'm terribly sorry, but you can't let either of them win. They have to both lose out, because someone as special as you shouldn't have to deal with crappy boyfriends like these. Also, get to know guys first before you date them! Good luck! :)


so yeah, these are quite the interesting questions. I have to say though, I won't be here for a while to answer your questions, but don't fret, I will be back soon in early January! Continue to send in your questions, and I will answer them ASAP. Best of luck to all of you in your unique and interesting lives, and also, have a MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!

STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! Here's to a new year of amazingness and being unique and ourselves!

love and et cetera,

rachelrae xx

"What do you want to be when you grow up?"

Hello universe. today's post will be a little different.. to be honest with all of you, I haven't checked my email or my Twitter for any questions. If you have a burning question, I'm sorry in advance... I have been so busy lately, but never fear... I promise, next post with be Q and A central :)

So, that is the classic childhood (and hey, maybe even now) question that most adults ask you when you just met them, you haven't seen them in a while or just to break the ice.

When I was three, I remember that my dream was to become a princess when I grew up.

Then, as I gained more knowledge, I realized that probably wasn't going to happen. At 7 I told people that I wanted to be a singer and sell millions of albums and do concerts worldwide.

I grew up and gained more knowledge. 12 years old: lawyer, hoping to get into Harvard.

Now I'm here. 15, and wanting to be a high school teacher. That, or be a successful journalist.

So why all the sudden thinking about this topic? Recently in my Planning 10 class I was given an assignment to investigate what schools offer a program that I could do to get my undergrad and possibly graduate degree in whatever profession/stream I chose.

One weekend, 10 hours, hundreds of webpages and thousands of Google searches later, I came up with two schools. And this is only for one profession (I had to investigate two professions... and btw, this project is worth 50 marks and heavily weighted... yikes.)

Basically, the question that everyone could answer without blinking when they were 5 is now the most difficult question to answer. This is our future we're talking about.

Another question would be what school you would like to go to. Harvard was my number one choice at 12 years old.

Now? It's looking more like Kwantlen or Langara for an undergrad degree. I would be laughing (and terribly lucky) if i got into UBC, SFU, or UVic or something like that.

I saw a really good school in Ottawa - Carleton University, that has an amazing journalism program. Now, there is a dream worth dreaming...

So yeah. This journey called 'life' has just gotten more complicated.

But I can't complain: life is good. My wonderful friend that is a boy who is more than what that reads is amazing. school is going well, family life is going well, and everything is splendid. Also, I have some of the best readers there are, so that's a bonus.

I was told today to value your childhood and teenage years. I think there is some important advice to heed :)

STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE! Best of luck to my schools JV football team on their game tomorrow :)

Lots of love,

rachelrae xx

quickie post :) - emotion: :\

i don't have that much time today, so i will post a short and sweet ish post :) oh, and no questions answered today and neither will i show you how much response i have gotten to my last post! you are all regular JAAGs, my lovelies <3

today was an interesting day. it started off wonderfully. but anyone's life can change in an instant - something happens, someone says something, people reacting to people, etc.

my life changed like that today.

you know, it's one of those days when you do something once. then people want you to do it again, so that they can 1) see you do it an just feel so happy and 2) know that they have some sort of power over you.

i'm not the type of person that let's people push me around.. besides, i know what i have done. in this instance, i told him goodbye (not forever - just for the time being until i see him the following day)

but what happens when all of a sudden, past memories, past, not so good memories, flood back into your mind and you realize this could be the last time you see his face, his sweet smile, hear his voice and have him wrap you in his strong arms again?

i don't personally have anything against sports, but people do get injured. football is no exception. i lost a dear friend to football, and while he is in a better place, sometimes i wish i can pick up the phone just to hear his voice again. but it's too late now - he's gone, watching over me like he always said he would.

then we come back to today. i'm standing there, wondering if i really should have done something to make myself known. maybe i should have run up to him and put my arms around him once more. maybe i should have told him good bye again and risk sounding redundant.

we all make choices, and even the tiny ones affect us one way or another. this one, for some reason, hit me hard.

so there i am, kind of broken hearted and tear stained. not because of what anyone said, but because of what i didn't say.

i want to say that i'm sorry. i really wish that i didn't blow my chances. i want to know that he'll be alright, and that when i call his number, he'll be on the other end, smiling and making me smile.

STAY OUT OF TROUBLE AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE. if you want to say something to anyone, especially something from the heart, say it before it's too late. hopefully i didn't make a mistake this time, because if i did, i don't get another chance. i hope you all take this to heart and remember (: good luck to the boys - do well, win, and stay safe.


love from your troubled blogger,
rachelrae xx